为了全方位论证我的观点,我们就打个比方,假设你确实喜欢和人面对面坐着。那好。但比较起来该怎么办呢?第一次约会共进晚餐总是这么的老套,会让你不可避免地回想起你以前带男孩或女孩第一次出去吃饭的时光。更不要说好莱坞拍了无数个爱情电影,每个里面都有共进晚餐的约会场景了。
The thing is, the compare-and-contrast game is unwinnable. One of two things will inevitably happen: your brain will kindly dredge up the worst faux-pas you've ever committed and give you debilitating social anxiety, or you’ll think of Cameron Diaz and Jude Law chatting in a fancy French bistro and realize this date doesn't even come close. Inevitably, you'll find yourself subconsciously struggling to either avoid the mistakes of the past or to measure up to impossible standards. Neither of these, of course, will accomplish anything besides adding extra pressure to an already stressful event.
问题是,在这种比较加对比的游戏中你是不会获胜的。你脑海中会不由自主地浮现出最失态的那次经历,加剧你的社交恐惧;或者你会想起卡梅隆·迪亚兹和裘德·洛在一家有情调的法国酒吧聊天的场景,然后意识到自己的这次约会可远远比不上人家。你会不可避免地发现自己在潜意识中挣扎,要么试图避免过去的错误,要么以不可能的标准要求自己。而这两种情况,除了给已经够紧张的事增加额外压力,别的什么都实现不了。
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