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分手后我们还能做朋友吗？

Few relationship questions are as polarizing as whether or not you should stay friends with an ex. Anecdotal evidence feeds arguments on both sides — but what do the experts say?

是否应该与前任保持友谊？对这一两性关系问题的答案非常罕见地两极分化，传闻轶事更激化了双方的争论，那专家怎么看待这一问题呢？

Rachel Sussman, a New York City-based psychotherapist, advises caution when it comes to staying friends, but says there are couples for whom it works; ultimately, she says, it's "an individual determination". Nonetheless, Sussman says there are some guidelines all exes should follow after a breakup.

纽约心理治疗师雷切尔·萨斯曼建议，应谨慎对待与前任保持友谊这一问题，不过，对于一些情侣或夫妇来说，与前任保持友谊不成问题。归根到底，这只是“个人选择”。不过，在处理与前任关系的问题上，萨斯曼给出了以下几点准则。

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When to cut ties?

"Under no circumstances should a relationship that was abusive, manipulative or toxic transition into a friendship"，Sussman says.

“在任何情况下，一段充满虐待和控制的‘有毒’感情绝不应转变成友谊，”萨斯曼说。

Sussman also says there are potential downsides to staying friends with an ex. "Sometimes that will hold you back from going into a new relationship," she warns. "Or you'll get into a new relationship and you'll tell your new girlfriend or boyfriend, 'My ex is one of my closest friends.' That's complicated. Are you giving the new relationship a fair chance to really flourish or blossom?"