《进化心理学》上的一篇研究发现,当被问到想要什么样的伴侣时,大多数人表示,他们更喜欢和自己互补的伴侣,而不是和自己相似的。
However, the individuals were more likely to choose a partner who they thought was very similar to them.
不过,人们更可能选择自己眼中的同类作为伴侣。
In reality, this shows we're not influenced by our friends after we meet them, we organically gravitate towards them because they're just like us.
事实上,这表明我们和朋友见面后不会受到他们的影响。我们自然而然地被他们吸引,是因为他们和我们很像。
With total strangers, we can use this to our advantage, and shift the conversation to topics you're both interested in. This gets them to talk about things they like, as you're being receptive about this similarity.
和完全陌生的人接触时,也可以利用这点,把谈话引到你们都感兴趣的话题上。这样对方就能够谈论他喜欢的事情,因为你对这种相似性很容易接受。
5.Gossip Positively
5.正面八卦
Not all gossip is bad gossip, especially when it comes to compliments. A study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found what you say about others colors how people see you.
并非所有的八卦都是不好的闲话,尤其是赞美的话。《人格与社会心理学》杂志上的一项研究发现,你对别人的评价会影响别人对你的看法。
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