THEY ATTACK YOUR CHARACTER VS. COMPLAINING ABOUT SPECIFIC THINGS.
他们攻击你的人格VS.具体埋怨某件事。
Fighting about sex? Money? In-laws? Our experts tell you what you're really fighting about and how to get the issue solved once and for all so you don't have to keep having the same arguments every three months.
为了性生活、钱或公婆而争吵?我们的专家将告诉你什么事值得争吵,以及如何一劳永逸的解决这些问题,这样你们就不必每三个月都为同样的事情争吵了。
"YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF"
"你应该为自己感到羞愧"
We all do things we're not proud of but being shamed for them. Even if your partner has done something truly terrible, like cheated on you, publicly or privately shaming them may feel good in the moment, but it won't help you move forward. "Rather than shaming them for a behavior that they are doing, take accountability and ownership for your part and your own feelings," says Shirani M. Pathak, Ph.D., licensed psychotherapist and founder of the Center for Soulful Relationships. "When you approach it from this place, you take personal responsibility and the relationship has a chance to grow and evolve, rather than deteriorate with resentments."
我们都做过一些不光彩、感到羞耻的事情。即使你的另一半做过一些十分糟糕的事情,比如出轨,公开或私下里羞辱他们可能会让你一时快意,但却无益于你继续向前。"不要为他们的行为羞辱他们,相反,找出自己应该承担的责任,说出你的感受,"持证心理治疗师兼灵魂恋情中心的创始人Shirani M. Pathak博士说道。"当你从这一角度解决问题时,你承担了自己的责任,从而给这段感情成长和升华的机会,而不是让怨恨毁掉这段感情。"
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