跟人没话聊？这5个简单原则让你迅速摆脱尬聊_BEC初级作文

跟人没话聊？这5个简单原则让你迅速摆脱尬聊

我们天生倾向于和同类建立联系。然而，我们似乎没有意识到这点。《进化心理学》上的一篇研究发现，当被问到想要什么样的伴侣时，大多数人表示，他们更喜欢和自己互补的伴侣，而不是和自己相似的。然而，人们更可能选择自己眼中的同类作为伴侣。

In reality, this shows we're not influenced by our friends after we meet them, we organically gravitate towards them because they're just like us. With total strangers, we can use this to our advantage, and shift the conversation to topics you're both interested in. This gets them to talk about things they like, as you’re being receptive about this similarity.

事实上，这说明我们和朋友见面后不会受到他们的影响。我们自然而然地被他们吸引，是因为他们和我们很像。和完全陌生的人接触时，也可以利用这点，把谈话引到你们都感兴趣的话题上。这样对方就能够谈论他喜欢的事情，因为你对这种相似性很容易接受。

Gossip Positively

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Not all gossip is bad gossip, especially when it comes to compliments. A study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found what you say about others colors how people see you. If you compliment people, you're likely to be seen positively; if you complain, you're likely to be associated with those negative traits you hate. When you gossip about others, listeners unconsciously associate you with those characteristics you're describing, eventually having those traits 'transferred' on to you.