Emphasize Similarities

强调共性

Naturally, we tend to bond with people who are like us. However, we seem to be unaware of this fact. A study in Evolutionary Psychology found when individuals were asked what they wanted in a partner, the majority said they would prefer a complementary partner rather than a similar one. However, the individuals were more likely to choose a partner who they thought was very similar to them.

我们天生倾向于和同类建立联系。然而，我们似乎没有意识到这点。《进化心理学》上的一篇研究发现，当被问到想要什么样的伴侣时，大多数人表示，他们更喜欢和自己互补的伴侣，而不是和自己相似的。然而，人们更可能选择自己眼中的同类作为伴侣。

In reality, this shows we're not influenced by our friends after we meet them, we organically gravitate towards them because they're just like us. With total strangers, we can use this to our advantage, and shift the conversation to topics you're both interested in. This gets them to talk about things they like, as you’re being receptive about this similarity.

事实上，这说明我们和朋友见面后不会受到他们的影响。我们自然而然地被他们吸引，是因为他们和我们很像。和完全陌生的人接触时，也可以利用这点，把谈话引到你们都感兴趣的话题上。这样对方就能够谈论他喜欢的事情，因为你对这种相似性很容易接受。

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