Great couples never fight? It's exactly the opposite - in fact, fighting done right can even improve your relationship.
感情好的情侣从来都不吵架?情况恰恰相反--事实上,如果吵架的方式正确,你们的感情还会因此而升温。
Fight about one thing at a time
一次只争吵一件事
"Don't fight about more than one issue at once. It's easy when we're upset or frustrated to remember a list of grievances from the past, but it's counterproductive. Instead, try to stick to the issue at hand."
"千万不要一次性争吵一件以上的事情。伤心、沮丧的时候,我们很容易就会想到以前的种种不满,但这样做反而会适得其反。相反,你可以试着争吵手头的问题。"
Be emotionally honest
忠于自己的感受
"Emotional honesty is important. Don't hide from an argument. Sometimes, when asked 'what's wrong?' our common answer is 'nothing.' But when you're in a strong, healthy relationship, there's the opportunity for emotional honesty. You can dig deep, be brave, and speak up for yourself. Your truth may be met with confrontation at first, but, in the long run, emotional honesty offers the only chance for change, repair, and growth."
"忠于自己的感受是很重要的。不要逃避争吵。有时候,当另一半问自己'怎么了?'的时候,我们通常会回答'没事儿。'但如果你们的感情牢固、健康,那就有机会忠于自己的感受。你可以说得深入一点、要勇敢一点,说出自己的心里话。刚开始,你的坦诚也许会受到质疑,但长远看来,忠于自己的感情为改变、修复和成长提供了唯一的机会。"
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