Want to raise mentally strong kids? Stop doing these things
想要孩子乐观坚强,那就不要再做这些事
1. Minimizing your child's feelings
1. 忽略孩子的感受
When you say things like, "Don't worry about it. It's not a big deal," you're implying that your child's feelings are wrong - or that they don't matter. Kids need to know that it's okay to feel a wide variety of emotions. And the key to living their best life is about managing emotions (not suppressing them). A healthier message is to say, "I know you feel scared right now, but I also know you're strong enough to face your fears."
“别担心,这没什么大不了,”说这些话时,你的潜台词是孩子的感受是错的——或者它们的感受无关紧要。孩子应该知道,他们可以有各种情绪。而一生都活得精彩的关键在于管理情绪(而非抑制情绪)。更为健康的表达方式为:“我知道你现在很害怕,但我也知道你很坚强,一定可以面对恐惧。”
2. Giving in to misbehavior
2. 妥协于他们的不当行为
It's tempting to give in when your child is whining or throwing a tantrum - especially on the days when you just don't have the time or energy to address the issue. But each time you give them what they want, you teach your child that their misbehavior is an effective way to get their needs met. If you want to raise mentally strong kids, stick to your limits. Teach them that they can cope with their discomfort and learn healthier ways to manage their emotions.
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