通常情况下,当我觉得我实在想不出有什么可说,其实还是有很多潜在的话题从我脑海中穿过。但是我并未开口,我出于这样或那样的原因把它们扼杀了。“不,我不能说这个。它太无聊了。”“不行,那太耸人听闻。”,“哦,说这个我会有点紧张,不知道是为什么。”这样的自我审查就太苛刻了,还是把你脑子里一闪而过的想法一吐为快吧。
Don't fret too much about saying generic things
不必担心自己的话语平淡无奇
I've read a lot of advice telling me not to bore people with cliched, unoriginal conversation topics. This has sunk in so much that sometimes I'll find myself paralyzed in social situations. I'll meet someone new and not say anything to them because I think it's a huge faux pas to ask them something uninspired, like where they work.
我曾经读过很多建议,它们告诉我,不要拿味如鸡肋,陈词滥调的话题来让人觉得无聊。这个说法渗入我内心之深,以至于有时我发现自己在社交场合形同瘫痪。我会新认识一些人,却不打算和他们说点什么。因为我认为,如果我说了什么让他们觉得毫无触动的东西,就是巨大的失礼,例如,询问他们在哪里工作。
Just say this stuff anyways. Something is better than nothing. Often, dull questions like, "What do you do for fun?", or "Seen any good movies lately?" get the ball rolling. Soon enough you're talking about something more interesting. They can be a necessary evil, a reliable, if tiresome, fallback. When people ask me questions I've heard to answer a million times before, I'm not always crazy about it, but don't hold it against them either. Ideally you can avoid boring topics, but if you can't think of anything else to say, then go with them as opposed to be quiet.
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