“我们将这称为主动汇报,而不是自夸,”塔尔干表示,他测试过很多解决表扬问题的方案,发现定期会面、同时结合明确的目标与标准,可以取得很好的效果。“你肯定吃惊,这些年轻的表扬迷们可以变得多么自立。”
Celebrate someone else’s success. Another surprising remedy: giving praise to a colleague or group of peers. “It has a lot of positive effect,” Tulgan says. Not only does sharing your appreciation improve your coworkers‘ mood and self-esteem, it may encourage them to pay more close attention to your performance and return the favor in the future.
祝贺他人的成功。另外一个出人意料的处方是,表扬某个同事或某一些同事。“这样做有很多正面效果,”塔尔干说。说出你的赞赏,不仅能让同事心情大好,更加自信,还能鼓励他们更紧密地关注你的表现,同时在未来做出相应的回报。
If you’re still unconvinced that praise addiction is a problem you need to solve, consider the effect that your neediness has on the people around you at work.
如果你仍然不相信表扬瘾是一个需要解决的问题,不妨想一想在工作中,你的这项需求对周围的人产生了什么样的影响。
“Instead of making people like you and ingratiating yourself, you‘re doing the exact opposite,” Klaus says. “No one wants to manage you. No one wants to be on a team with you because you’re such an energy suck ... It makes you seem very young and very immature.”
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