2. Youre wrong
你错了
What they hear: You are stupid. You know nothing. Youre worthless.
他们听到的是:你是个笨蛋,你知道什么啊,你简直一文不值。
Prefer more tactful sentences. I would have thought that, My understanding is that Ask questions to make sure you and the other person are working on the same assumptions.
不如换成更加隐晦的句子:我早就应该想到... 我的理解是... 问问题能保证你和其他人在商榷同一个假设。
3. You cant do it
你做不到的
What they hear: You dont have what it takes to do it, no matter how hard you try; So why do you even try?
他们听到的是:无论你多努力,都没有能力做到,那干嘛还要去尝试呢?
Why would you set someone up for failure? I understand that you dont want your friend to have delusions, and you could feel that it is your duty to stop that person before they hurt themselves, but I would like to ask you: how can you judge what is good for somebody? And what if failure was the best path for growth? Encourage people who have chosen a challenging path.
为什么总把别人和失败绑在一起?我懂你其实不希望你朋友产生幻觉,你觉得阻止他们是你的责任,可以使他们免于受伤,但我还是想问问你:你凭什么替别人去判断事物的好坏?失败难道不是成长最好的途径吗?对那些走在充满挑战道路上的人一丝鼓励吧。
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