缺乏安全感吗?这真的要怪你父母_公共英语阅读理解

缺乏安全感吗?这真的要怪你父母

鉴于离婚率也是40%至50%，这看上去不像是一个容易的任务。事实上，研究人员说，如果你的依恋模式属于不安全的类型，你容易被符合你的期望的人吸引，即使他们对你并不好。你可能会在潜意识的驱使下做一些事情，引起不敏感、不可靠或虐待行为，这些是你最熟悉的行为。你也可能会逃离安全的依恋关系，因为这让你感到陌生。

“Our attachment system preferentially sees things according to what has happened in the past,” said Dr. Amir Levine, a psychiatrist at Columbia University and the co-author of the book “Attached,” which explores how attachment behaviors affect the neurochemistry of the brain. “It’s kind of like searching in Google where it fills in based on what you searched before.”

哥伦比亚大学的精神病学家阿米尔·列文(Amir Levine)和《依恋》(Attached)一书的合著者说：“我们的依恋系统优先看到过去发生的事情。这就像是谷歌搜索服务会根据你之前搜索的内容进行自动填充一样。”《依恋》探索了依恋行为如何影响大脑的神经化学机制。

But again, history is not necessarily destiny. Intervention programs at the New School and the University of Delaware are having marked success helping at-risk groups like teenage mothers change their attachment behaviors (often passed down through generations) and establish more secure relationships. Another attachment-based intervention strategy called Circle of Security, which has 19,000 trained facilitators in 20 countries, has also proved effective.