Banish absolutes, especially in relation to your goals or relationships, where falling short of your expectations can be particularly depressing. These words and phrases include: always, never, nothing, must, every, totally, completely, constantly, entirely, all, definitely, full and one-hundred percent. Replace them with nuance. Instead of: "I can never catch a break," try "Sometimes things don't work out."
摒弃绝对词,特别是在描述人生目标或情感关系时,因为在这两种情况下,达不到期望值可能会令人特别沮丧。这些绝对词包括:总是、永不、毫无、必须、每个、统统、彻底、一直、完全、所有、绝对、全部和百分百。不妨“偷梁换柱”,用别的词代替。不要讲“我永远都不会交好运”,试着说 “事情有时就是不凑巧。”
Write. Keep a journal. Try a stream-of-consciousness writing exercise. Compose an email to a friend. Then analyze what words you are using. Are they too negative or absolutist? All about you? Tweak those sentences—and stay vigilant for those words in your speech.
动笔写。可以记日记,尝试一种意识流的写作练习。给朋友写电子邮件,分析自己的用词,是否太消极、太绝对?是否满篇都在讲自己?调整这些句子,对自己说话时用的字眼保持警惕。
Ask a loved one to help you identify absolutist or negative words or sentences and suggest reframing. It is easier to notice someone else's language than our own.
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