Have you ever had the feeling that everyone else seems so sorted, so at ease? You look about you and see friends chatting over lunch, people laughing on their mobiles, others escaping contentedly through novels or newspapers. According to Alexander Jordan and colleagues, most of us have such a tendency to underestimate other people's experience of negative emotion. In turn the researchers think this skewed perception perpetuates a collective delusion in which we all strive to present an unrealistically happy front because we think that's the norm.

有没有觉得别人总是泰然自若？环顾四周，人们在午餐时惬意闲谈，笑语盈盈地通电话，或者醉心于书本里的世界。然而亚历山大?乔丹和他的同事们却认为，大部分人都倾向于低估他人的负面情绪体验，久而久之这种错觉让我们努力在人前摆出一种快乐的假象，并认为这样很正常。

Jordan's team began their investigation by asking 63 undergrads to describe recent negative and positive emotional experiences they'd had. As expected, the negative examples (eg had an argument; was rejected by a boy/girl)， more than the positive examples (eg attended a fun party; had a great meal)， tended to occur in private and to provoke emotions that the students had attempted to suppress.

乔丹的心理小组邀请了63位大学生，请他们描述近来经历的正面和负面的情绪体验。如研究者所料，负面的例子(如争吵，求爱被拒)比正面的例子(如参加一个有趣的聚会，享用了一顿大餐)多，而且一般负面的东西多涉及隐私，会激发学生试图压抑的情绪。

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