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权威离婚礼仪指南

关于法律文件：“法律信函的初衷就是为了吓唬人，因此，如果配偶的律师来信看起来具有威胁性，也不要惊慌……让你的律师来处理这些法律术语。花钱请他们就是干这个的。”

On keeping children clear of the battle zone: "Never use children as go-betweens. Children are not effective messengers and misunderstandings will ensue. You may also be revealing a range of anarchic emotions to your children which they are unable to assimilate."

关于让孩子远离离婚大战：“不要拿孩子当中间人。孩子并不是有效的信使，反而会造成误解。这样做也会带给孩子一种混乱的情绪，他们无法消化接受。”

On divvying up personal property: "The engagement ring is an outright gift given to the woman on the condition of marriage, and having met that condition, she is entitled to keep it even after the marriage's dissolution. If the ring is a precious heirloom, handed down on the paternal side, returning it is entirely at the woman's discretion."

关于分割个人财产：“订婚戒指是男方以结婚为前提送给女方的礼物；既然结婚这一前提已经达成，即使婚姻破裂，女方仍有权保有订婚戒指。如果这枚戒指是男方珍贵的家传宝，是否将戒指归还男方完全由女方做主。”

On parental responsibilities: "Don't allow roles to become polarised. If one parent is entirely responsible for the mundanities of everyday life (laundry, shopping, school, homework) and the other sweeps the children off their feet every weekend for a round of treats, outings and parental indulgence . . . the children will alternate between dissatisfaction and overstimulation, and eventually will become very unhappy . . . . The downtrodden parent will be understandably resentful. . . . Remember, your new life as divorced parents is really not about scoring points off each other, but ensuring that your children's life is stable, secure, and contented."