There are three attachment-style types: secure, anxious or avoidant, according to Hal Shorey, a psychologist and assistant professor for the Institute for Graduate Clinical Psychology at Widener University, in Chester, Pa. Secure people, roughly 55% of the population, typically are warm, loving and comfortable with intimacy. They were raised, most likely, by a consistently caring and responsive mother or parental figure. The other 45% has a sometimes problematic attachment style, meaning they are anxious, avoidant or a combination, Dr. Shorey says.

宾夕法尼亚州切斯特（Chester）威得恩大学（Widener University）临床心理研究生院（Institute for Graduate Clinical Psychology）的心理学家、助理教授哈尔•肖里（Hal Shorey）称，有三种依恋模式：安全型、焦虑型和逃避型。约55%的人属于安全型，他们通常待人亲切，有爱心，适应亲密接触。他们很可能是由对他们始终关爱备至的母亲或类似于父母的角色抚养长大的。肖里博士说，其他45%的人的依恋模式有时会有问题，这意味着他们属于焦虑型、逃避型或两种类型的结合。

Anxious people who worry about whether their partner loves them often had parents who were inconsistently nurturing. Avoidant people, whom psychologists also call 'dismissive,' try to minimize closeness and often had parents who didn't tolerate neediness or insecurities.

焦虑型的人担心他们的伴侣是否爱他们，这种人的父母通常对他们疏于照顾。逃避型的人──心理学家也称他们为“拒绝型”──则尽量减少跟他人的亲密接触，他们的父母通常无法忍受需要感和不安全感。

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