分手不是世界末日：分手后绝不要做的8件事_BEC初级作文

分手不是世界末日：分手后绝不要做的8件事

报复只会换来苦涩和憎恨。你也许被伤得很深，但“扯平”并不会治愈你的伤痕。原谅他然后继续前行。昂起头，把工夫花在那些值得的人身上。

4. Communicate. In any format.

任何形式的来往

You broke up last week, but you still “have thoughts” you want to process with the ex. You pick up your phone. Something makes you laugh on your way to work. Your first instinct? Text your ex about it. Don’t.

你们上周分手了，但你还“有些想法”想和前任说。你拿起了电话。你在上班路上遇到了好笑的事情。你的第一反应是给前任发短信？别这样做。

There will be times when it’s important to communicate with an ex. Maybe you need to return his things. Maybe you have to deal with a shared lease, or pet custody. Resist the urge, however, to call or text whenever you would have when you were still dating.

总有些时候有些重要的事你想和前任谈谈。也许你要把他的东西还给他；也许你要处理一下你们合租的房子，或是宠物的归属。然而你要对抗这种冲动，不要像你们分手之前那样，给他打电话或者发短信。

Breakups create voids. Ask a close friend if you can call him/her every time you would usually reach out to your ex. Recruit a support system of friends and family to help you fill the time normally spent with a significant other. Many people feel lost after a breakup; not because they miss their ex, but because so many of their daily habits once revolved around someone else. Give yourself some time to adapt to single life.