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教育好孩子,把握好分寸很重要

Children who have a realistic understanding of how they are seen by others tend to be more resilient. In a 2010 study, 333 preteens played an online version of 'Survivor,' posting personal profiles and receiving peer ratings on their likability. All the kids who received low ratings experienced a drop in self-esteem, gauged via scores on a scale including such items as, 'I feel good about who I am right now.' But those who started the game with grandiose views of themselves and inflated feelings of superiority suffered the biggest declines in self-esteem, says the study in Child Development.

那些对于他人对自己持何看法有更现实认知的孩子，往往更能适应环境。在2010年的一项研究中，333名九至13岁的孩子在网上参与一个类似真人秀节目《幸存者》(Survivor)的游戏，孩子们在网上公布他们的个人简介，然后其他人会根据对这些孩子的喜爱程度给他们打分。所有得到较低评分的孩子，自信程度都有所下降，他们的自信程度是通过他们针对诸如“我对于现在的自我感觉良好”这样的问题打分来决定的。不过，这份发表于《儿童发展》的研究报告指出，那些在游戏开始前对自己有不切实际的过高评价、并有过高优越感的孩子，自信心下降得最为严重。

When researchers tried to lift the grades of struggling college students by raising their self-esteem, the students' grades got worse, according to a 2007 study of 86 students published in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology. Showering them with messages aimed at making them feel good about themselves may have instilled 'a cavalier, defensive attitude,' causing them to study less, the study says.