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这些迹象表明你们的恋情并不开心

2. You prioritize your friends and family over your partner.

2. 你认为朋友和家人比另一半重要。

While it's important to make time for people outside your relationship, it becomes an issue if you'd always rather see them than your partner. "When you had a good day at work, when you ran into someone you haven't seen in a while, when you find a $20 bill in your jacket pocket—who do you want to run and tell?" asks Raffi Bilek, a couples counselor and director of the Baltimore Therapy Center. "If you're in a happy relationship, odds are it's your partner. If you're not, it's probably somebody else."

虽然和其他人相处也很重要，但如果你总想着和其他人而非另一半见面，这就成了问题。“在你工作很开心的时候，在你遇到了好久没见的熟人的时候，在你发现衣服口袋里有20块钱的时候——你最想告诉谁呢？”巴尔的摩治疗中心的夫妻顾问和主任拉菲·比莱克（Raffi Bilek）问道。“如果你们的感情融洽，你最想与之分享的人应该是另一半。如若不然，你首先想到的可能是其他人。”

Beware of overly relying on friends or family for emotional safety and support, too. "That's a sign that someone has lost not only the desire to bring their deeper emotions to their partner, but that they may no longer feel safe being vulnerable with them," says Kimberly Ciardella, a marriage and family therapist.