婚姻亮红灯时你犯傻了吗？情感专家非常规作战保卫爱情_BEC初级作文

婚姻亮红灯时你犯傻了吗？情感专家非常规作战保卫爱情

学会倾听对于婚姻顾问和夫妻来说是很重要的，然而当婚姻出现了问题，真真需要的是有人出来做点什么。在听完倾诉以后需要有人有勇气站出来说“这是我需要你们做到的...." 菲尔特渥先生补充道“让问题婚姻出现转机不是靠夫妻倾诉以及倾听可以办到的，这个转机必须要靠实际行动来实现。”

What he suggests instead are six unconventional steps that run counter to traditional relationship advice.

菲尔特渥先生提出了六条非常规的建议：

go it alone

自己解决问题

Most people think, 'I need my spouse to work with me to fix our marriage.' But it does not take two to tango. One person's effort can change the momentum of a marriage, and very often, it's that effort that motivates the obstinate spouse to join in the process of saving the relationship.

很多人以为“婚姻一旦有问题必须夫妻俩共同解决问题”其实问题不需要两人一起解决，一个人的力量也能让你们的婚姻出现转机。当你做出了努力，你的另一半也会受到鼓励，加入到挽救你们婚姻关系的行列。

Stop asking yourself the wrong question

别再问自己那些傻问题

Many people wonder, 'Did I marry the right person?' But that's the wrong question. The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. Love is not a mystery. Just as there are physical laws of the universe -- like gravity, which governs flight -- there are also relationship laws that, depending on your behavior, dictate the outcome of your marriage. You don't have to be 'lucky in love.' It's not luck; it's choice.