Each day, I see individuals who are highly competent, smart, achievement oriented and outwardly successful, but many of them are in terrible emotional overwhelm -- they're gripped by anxiety, fear or victimization and they lack the ability to speak up authoritatively or with command. The emotionality of their lives keeps them from reasoning through effective solutions and strategies.
每天,我能看到那些非常能干、聪明、有成就和表面成功的人,但是很多人的情绪状况非常糟——他们受焦虑、恐惧或者欺骗所折磨,也缺乏用权威的或者命令的口气说话的能力。这些生活中的情绪妨碍了他们为改变而找出有效的方法和策略。
7) Your shame and vulnerability keep you from getting help
你的羞耻感和脆弱阻止你寻求帮助
If we're afraid of appearing or feeling vulnerable, then we blunt all of the other experiences/emotions we desperately long for, including happiness, connection, empathy, love and more. Further, if you need to appear the "expert" and won't admit your flaws, foibles or 'gaps", you'll never get the help you need to make life change. As Einstein has said, "You can't solve a problem on the level it was created.
如果我们害怕表现脆弱,或者感到脆弱,那么我们会对其他所有我们极度渴望的经历/情感表现迟钝,包括幸福、人际、仁慈、爱和其他更多。进一步说,如果你需要表现得像“专家”,不承认自己的缺点、弱点或者“差距”,那么你就无法得到你需要的帮助,以此来改变你的生活。正如爱因斯坦所说,“如果没有发现问题,你就不能解决问题。”
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