洛杉矶的卡罗琳·莱因弗兰克(Caroline Rheinfrank)和乔珀·贝尼特(Chopper Bernet)有三个孩子,分别是15岁、14岁和11岁,莱因弗兰克是一位全职太太,贝尼特是一名演员。两人之间对于在孩子面前的争吵有一个不成文的五分钟限制。莱因弗兰克说:“他们长大了,所以懂得更多了。”或者像贝尼特所说的,“当父母的也需要叫暂停”。在吵架可能性较高的时候(包括开车时或晚饭前),夫妻两人还会多宽容对方一些,以防发火。
Parents should use their kids' reaction during a fight as a guide, experts say. A crying child is an obvious sign to end an argument. But there are more subtle cues that a kid is distressed, Dr. Davies says. 'When they start freezing, they are stuck still for a few seconds, that is a really negative sign that they feel like they are in extreme danger, ' he says. Other kids tend to 'slump over, lethargic, and look like they are sort of depressed.'
专家说,父母在争吵期间应当以孩子的反应为指引。孩子哭泣,是明白无误地说明应该要停止争吵。但戴维斯博士说,有些更加细微的迹象也说明孩子情绪不好。他说:“当他们开始发愣,愣上几秒钟,那其实是一种负面征兆,说明他们觉得自己是处在一种极度的危险之中。”他说,另一些孩子往往是“没精打采地一屁股坐下,像是有些抑郁一样”。
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