我们还是一个“中度接触”的文化——比日本人更喜欢用身体接触表达感情,但不如拉丁或东欧文化。在日本,鞠躬是通行的问候和告别礼节,而在拉丁和东欧国家,拥抱都很有力,还包括亲吻两边的脸颊。但我们确实似乎拥抱得越来越多了。
For men, this is newly slippery terrain. Handshakes are scripted and reliable -- a firm grip, a couple of brisk pumps, and done. There is evidence of hand-shaking as far back as the fifth century B.C. It may have started as a gesture of peace by proving that the hand held no weapon.
对男士来说,这是个新的需要谨慎对待的礼仪。握手已经约定俗成,比较可靠——握紧、轻轻摇晃两下、结束。早在公元前五世纪就有关于握手的记载,可能最早是一种表示和平的手势,是为了证明手里没有武器。
With hugging now in play, men must do rapid social calculations: body language, length and nature of the relationship, setting, alcohol effect and the other's intentions. Decisions must be made in split seconds.
如今到了流行拥抱的时候,男士们必须进行快速的社交计算:肢体语言、与对方关系的时长和性质、环境、酒精效应还有对方的意图。决定必须在一瞬间做出。
Male friends tell me that they adhere to the one-second rule (one-Mississippi and . . . break). They also favor the A-frame hug -- shoulders touching, handshake high, a couple of quick taps on the back. There is no such middle ground for women. It's either shake or hug.
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