阅读当下流行趋势和资讯故事,这样你和大家就会有可谈论的话题。试着避开太过冲突的话题,例如政治话题,但可以谈论可能引起大家很多人兴趣的资讯故事,资讯话题是开始对话的好方式,因为可以聊一些中性话题。
12. Identify and Replace Negative Thoughts
意识到自己的消极想法,改正掉
If you have a lot of negative thoughts about your social interactions, it could become a self-fulfilling prophecy. For example, a person who thinks, “I’m really awkward and I will embarrass myself,” may sit in the corner at a party. As a result, he may leave the party thinking that he must be really awkward because no one talked to him.
如果你对社交沟通交流有很多消极想法,可能会成为一种自我应验的预言。例如,有人认为,“我真的感到自己处于非常尴尬的境地,”会坐在聚会的某个角落。结果他会从聚会场合上离开,会一直觉得没人跟他说话,所以自己一定很尴尬。
Identify negative thoughts that are likely dragging you down. Replace them with more realistic thoughts, such as, “I can make conversation and I can meet new people.” Don’t allow yourself to dwell on thoughts that aren’t productive.
确定消极思想有可能在拖累着你,用更加现实的想法取代消极想法,例如,“我可以和别人对话我还可以与新认识的人见面。” 不许自己停留在无意义的思想中。
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