我们经常教导子女:渴望和需求是不一样的。你需要某人,那是因为你心藏恐惧:你害怕没了他你就无法生活,所以你需要他。可是别忘了,恐惧和爱是对立的。如果你渴望生活中出现某个人但又愿意给他离开的自由,那你才是爱他的。
8. Love is an action, not just a feeling
爱不只是感觉,更是行动
Humans tend to be addicted to intense emotion – especially when it feels good. So when we’re in love, we want to feel that way forever. But guess what? That higher than “Cloud 9” feeling goes away after a while. That doesn’t mean you don’t love the other person anymore, it just means that it’s not new anymore. So that’s where the action needs to kick in. Show the person you love them. Don’t just assume they know.
人们总是难以抗拒热烈的情感——尤其是在感觉良好的时候。所以一旦陷入爱,我们就总希望能一直那样美好。但实际上呢,那种飘飘欲仙的感觉稍纵即逝。当然,这并不表示你不再爱他,只能说新鲜劲儿过去了而已。这时就得拿出行动来证明你爱他。不要只在心里想当然认为他知道你爱他。
9. Love is unconditional
爱是无条件的
The word ‘unconditional’ means that there are no expectations or limitations set. To love unconditionally is a difficult thing, and most humans aren’t good at that. But true love really does love without trying to change the other person.
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