2. Don’t Ponder on Negative Thoughts
不要陷入消极思维
When you give a presentation – there’s always three presentations involved: There’s the presentation you planned on giving, there’s the presentation you actually gave, and then there’s the presentation you wish you gave.
如果你要作报告,那么报告无非就三种形式:你正在发布的报告、你已经发布的报告,以及你打算发布的报告。
When you focus on what you could have done better, when you focus on the negative, you create a cycle of negativity. After you leave a meeting, or a dinner party, or a social gathering, don’t ponder on how you could have been “better.” Don’t think, “Why did I say that?”
当你一味想着本可以做得更好时,当你只看到消极方面时,你就会形成消极循环模式。所以,会议、派对或集会结束后,请不要纠结自己本可以表现得“更出色”,也不要懊恼“刚才我干嘛要那样说?”。
Everyone says something foolish from time-to-time, however, focusing on negativity will lead you to believe that you are a person who says the wrong things at social gatherings; that belief will manifest itself every time. Recognize that everyone says something foolish from time-to-time; don’t ponder, move on.
每个人难免都会说些蠢话,如果你只看到消极面,渐渐就会真的以为自己在社交时只会说错话;而且,这种想法每次都会应验。请记住:每个人偶尔都会说些蠢话。所以,不要纠结,该干啥就干啥去吧。
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