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一些与伴侣增进感情的小秘诀

While reporting this column, I asked people how they show their spouse they care. I heard from husbands who bring their wives coffee in bed, warm up the car on cold mornings and save her the last piece of chocolate. There are wives who make breakfast for their husbands every morning and brag to friends, within his earshot, about what a great husband he is.

你还可能以一种很礼貌但不太关心的方式回应—即“被动积极型”的回应。“真不错，亲爱的，你晚餐想吃点什么啊？”

Research shows these little gestures have a powerful effect on a relationship. They promote commitment. 'Being appreciative of your partner makes you want to hold on to your relationship,' says Amie Gordon, a postdoctoral scholar at the Institute of Personality and Social Research at the University of California, Berkeley, who studies gratitude in relationships. 'It helps you realize you have something great.' When one spouse shows appreciation, she says, it can start a cycle that makes the other spouse more appreciative and committed, too.

上述几种回应方式都不能给你的感情带来任何益处。研究显示，无论现在或者将来，如果你想要婚姻越来越甜蜜，那么正确的回应方式应该是“主动积极型”，即展现出自己的热情。做一名体贴的聆听者。提出问题。表现出你的兴趣和热情。显示出你对伴侣真切的理解，指出为什么他/她的好消息如此重要。“我知道为了得到这次晋升，你付出了很多努力。你会成为一名出色的领导者。让我们出去吃晚餐来庆祝一下吧。”研究显示，这种回应方式可以增进三个方面的积极效果—亲密关系、信任和对婚姻的满意度—对伴侣双方都是如此。

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