一些与伴侣增进感情的小秘诀_BEC初级作文

一些与伴侣增进感情的小秘诀

Keep up your efforts for 30 days, Dr. Hokemeyer says. Hopefully, by then your spouse will notice and reciprocate. If that doesn't happen, it's time for a conversation.

然而，当你向伴侣表达感激之情时，有一个隐秘且意外的风险也同时存在着。太频繁地表达感激之情可能或失去其积极的影响。戈登称：“感激是与期望紧密相联的。你越是期待某件事情，你对它的感激之情就越不强烈。”她的建议是：做些调整。为你的爱人在某天清早端上一杯咖啡；在另一天端上一杯睡前饮品。

One year, Leon Lewandowski, a third-grade teacher in Santa Barbara, Calif., and his wife, Mary, created an 'appreciation box.' They kept a shoebox on the living room mantel with slips of paper and a pen alongside it. During the week, when they each noticed and appreciated something nice the other had done, they wrote it down and slipped the note into the box. 'Thanks for letting me sleep in on Saturday morning.' 'You made me laugh so hard.' 'Your haircut makes you look great.'

如果你是那个需要额外关爱的人怎么办？在纽约和佛罗里达州博卡拉顿执业的注册婚姻家庭治疗师保罗·霍克迈尔(Paul Hokemeyer)表示：“如果你期待某种良好行为，那么请你率先做到。”“你需要为自己想要得到的关系设立标准。”

On Sunday night, after the children went to sleep, the two sat down, opened the box and read the appreciation slips out loud. Sometimes the notes would lead to further explanation, stories about that day or even more compliments. Always, they made the spouses feel good. 'We looked forward to this time each week,' Mr. Baxter says.