情侣之间沟通常出现的7个问题_BEC初级作文

情侣之间沟通常出现的7个问题

4. Harping on hopeless issues.

对无望之事喋喋不休

It’s easy to bring up fights from the past, or nag your partner for things in their history, or things they believe or do differently from you. This is always a bad choice, though. It changes nothing, and it makes you look like you’re never going to let anything go. Be the type of person who can get over a fight when it’s resolved, and not bring it up in each fight that follows. “Live in the moment” sounds like silly advice when you’re in the middle of an argument, but it’s something that needs to be done so you’re not prolonging every fight you have.

过去的事能够轻而易举引发争吵，而对方的曾经或他们与你背道而驰的行为想法也会让你碎碎念。这同样是个愚蠢的表现。唠叨无济于事，这只会显得你对一切都无法释怀。要做这样的人，不为已了之事烦忧，亦不为未了之事忧愁。当你们争得面红耳赤时，“活在当下”听起来蠢透了，但这是需要践行的，唯有这样争吵才不会愈演愈烈。

5. Not understanding what is really being said.

不明白对方真正表达的意思

Some couples find it helpful to summarize each others’ points. Sounds like something you’d do for a high school paper, right? It’s actually a really good way to make sure you understand each other! After your partner shares their thoughts, summarize by saying “It sounds like you’re happy with X, but need Y to change to feel like the relationship is moving forward.” Your partner can then clarify if needed. If you got it right, then you can start explaining your thoughts on the issue.