我知道不仅仅是我存在这样的问题。去年一年我都在跟领导学教练坦妮娅·盖斯勒合作研究攀比是如何发生的,它会让我们付出怎样的代价以及它教会了我们什么。我们发现,攀比心在创新型、增长型的人身上蔓延比较迅速。在我们这样一个充满攀比的文化中,很难避免去跟其他人比较究竟他们在短时间内做了什么,然后不由自主地进入“我怎么获得”的模式。我们的研究结果如下:
Don’t compare your insides to someone else’s outsides
别拿自己的内在和别人的外在来攀比
The first time I heard this excellent, if hard-to-implement, advice, I was suffering from a terrible case of envy. Some competitor or other had achieved an inspiring degree of success and I was complaining to a mentor about how unachievable it seemed to me. Her warning took me aback: Look, she told me, You have no idea what it took for them to get there. Don’t act like this was unearned, effortless, or pure dumb luck.And for Pete’s sake, don’t go thinking that because you read the press release, you have a single clue about what’s really going on behind the scenes.
我第一次听到这个优秀的、但却难以实施的建议时,我刚好在经受一种可怕的嫉妒。当看到一些竞争对手或其他人取得了令人欢欣鼓舞的成功时,我就向导师抱怨在我看来是如何无法实现的。她的警告使我十分惊讶:看,她告诉我,你并不知道他们为获得成功付出了什么。不要总觉得这是不劳而获、毫不费力的,或者纯粹的狗屎运。不要再那样想了,因为你一看这个消息的时候,你就只想到了一点,而不会考虑到他们背后发生了什么。
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