独立的女子往往对感情有着超高的期许

...And that's usually the reason why they have trouble with relationships -- romantic and not. We all know the "successful woman" archetype as it's traditionally presented: a cold, calculated, unemotional workaholic. We assume it's this nature that makes them always saddled with relationship issues, but more often, it's that they have such sky-high expectations for themselves and for their work, they have a really hard time not holding their relationships to the same standards. The only problem with that is a lack of insight: you can change your career, but you cannot change another person to be what you expect. And so long as you're focused on changing someone, you're not focused on loving him or her.

这就是独立的女子往往在爱情中面临问题的原因——无论他们的性格是否追求浪漫。我们都知道文化传统所塑造的“成功女性”固定形象是怎样的：一个性情冰冷，有条不紊的，冷酷无情的工作狂。我们常以为是这种性情让她们对感情问题举棋不定，然而事实上，由于独立的女子对于自己和她们的工作都有超级高的期望值，让她们接受低于自己期望值的感情，就显得尤为困难。这种情况的问题在于，她们没有意识到，你可以改变自己的职业，却不能改变一个人，让他成为完全符合你期望的人。如果你一门心思的想要改变他，你就无法专注于如何去爱他了。

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