这些迹象表明你们的感情即将走到尽头_BEC初级作文

这些迹象表明你们的感情即将走到尽头

这些迹象表明你们的感情即将走到尽头1

1. YOU SHOW CONTEMPT FOR EACH OTHER.

1. 你们互相看不起。

According to the Gottman Institute, where pioneering psychologists Dr. John and Julie Gottman spent nearly 40 years studying marriage, showing contempt is by far the strongest predictor that a relationship is about to end. More than just your choice of insults, contempt can be conveyed by rolling your eyes at your partner, showing disdain in the tone of your voice and mocking their concerns--any of which are enough to shake your partner's confidence and their very sense of self. Putting it simply, the loss of mutual respect is a nearly insurmountable obstacle in any relationship.

据高特曼研究所表示，心理学家先驱约翰医生和朱莉·高特曼医生花了将近40年的时间研究婚姻，看不起对方是迄今为止恋情即将走到尽头的最准迹象。蔑视不仅仅是侮辱的选择，向另一半翻白眼、语气中带着不屑、嘲笑他们的担忧，这些都是蔑视--任何一种方式都足以动摇另一半的自信、撼动他们的自我意识。简言之，缺少相互尊重是任何一段恋情都无法逾越的障碍。

2. YOU CRITICIZE EACH OTHER INCESSANTLY.

2. 你们总是批评对方。

When you use criticism as the primary tool to 'correct' your partner's behaviour--and ultimately their personality--it should serve as a warning bell that your relationship is on shaky ground. How can you tell you're being too critical? Watch for the use of generalizations in your statements, including, 'You always,' 'You never,' and 'This always happens...' These sweeping statements could lead your partner to feel that they're 'never' good enough for you--which could be the beginning of the end for your relationship. Is Facebook driving a wedge between you and your partner?