“你遇见的人越多,你越会意识到每个人都有不同的观点,”她写到。“唯一对你重要、贯穿你生活始终、并且你也可以控制的观点,就是你自己的观点。”
5. Try to make others comfortable
5. 试着让别人感到舒适
"How do you know that others with whom you share company are not themselves insecure?" writes Aurora Clawson.
Aurora Clawson写到,“你怎么知道你分享陪伴的人会不会有不安全感呢?”
"Others may act secure, but so many time[s] that is an act. How about making a point of helping others feel comfortable? Be a nurturer and you won't have to worry about how others think of you."
“其他人可能会表现得可靠,但大多数时候那是一种行为。如何表明帮助别人能感到舒适呢?作为一个养育着,你不必担心别人如何看待你。”
Clawson is right — research suggests that we're generally pretty bad at guessing how much others are struggling. Think about what you can do to make their lives easier, and you may find that your personal concerns are less salient.
Clawson是对的。研究表明,我们通常很不擅长推测别人的奋斗情况。想想你做什么能让他们的生活更容易一些,你可能会发现你的个人担忧不是很突出。
6. Focus on controlling your thoughts, not theirs
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