情感专家告诉你：如何“科学地”说分手_公共英语阅读理解

情感专家告诉你：如何“科学地”说分手

可能没啥比被甩更悲催了，但是甩人的一方感觉可能也好不到哪儿去。其实，分手对当事人双方来讲都不那么容易，但是如果你要甩了你的那个TA，还是有方法减轻你俩的痛苦的，情感专家给指出了几条光明大道。

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Tell the truth — but don’t be cruel

温柔点儿，讲真话

情感专家告诉你：如何“科学地”说分手1

If you’re ending a relationship, you owe it to the other person to explain why, says Rachel Sussman, a New York City psychotherapist and author of The Breakup Bible. “The people that I see who have the hardest time after a breakup, it’s because they don’t understand,” Sussman says. Ideally, your reason shouldn’t shock the other person, because you’ve discussed it in the past and tried to work through it, Sussman adds.

如果你想结束一段恋情，你应该给对方一个解释。来自纽约的心理治疗师、《分手圣经》的作者瑞秋·苏斯曼说道：“在我看来，人们在分手后最大的痛苦在于他们想不明白为什么分手。理论上，提出分手一方的理由不该使对方感到震惊，因为在决定分手前你们应该为此争执过，并且想过要去修复。”

Guy Winch, a New York City psychologist and author of How to Fix a Broken Heart, agrees that you should give a reason, but stresses that a breakup isn’t license to unload all of your pent-up complaints and snide comments — even if the other person says they want to hear them. “Find the one thing, because that might be useful for them [to know],” he says. Listing every last annoyance isn’t productive and will only drag out what’s likely to be a painful conversation.