如何跟你讨厌的人打交道_BEC初级作文

如何跟你讨厌的人打交道

4. Be clear about boundaries。

第四招：界限分明

You don’t have to be friends with everyone. Which means you don’t have to do favors for everyone who asks. If someone’s encroaching on your time, simply tell them, “I’m sure this is important to you but it simply isn’t a priority for me right now. I really need to work on x and not y。” Again, there’s no need to be mean, just redirect the conversations whenever conversation drifts into areas that aren’t relevant and where you know you’ll be annoyed。

你不需要和每个人都成为朋友。这就意味着：你没必要取悦每一个人。假如有人想占用你的时间，直接告诉ta：“我知道这事儿对您来说很重要，但是现在我还有别的本职的事儿要做。” 并不是教你变得冷漠无情，我的意思是：每当话题扯远了、或是即将触碰到你底线的这种时候，灵活地再把它扯回来就行。

5. Fight fire with ice。

第五招：及时灭火

The worst thing you can do with an angry or irrational person is engage him or her. In the heat of aggression, any word or action interpreted as aggressive in response will only trigger more aggression – and most of the item, if someone is upset and railing about it, every word and action will be read as aggression. As hard as it might seem to do, the best thing is to sit quietly and let them spend themselves ranting and raving, and then ask if they’d like to schedule a time to discuss the matter more calmly and return to whatever you were doing. If this sets off another round of yelling, simply wait it out and repeat。