实用社交课堂：9个招人嫌的交际习惯你有吗？_BEC初级作文

实用社交课堂：9个招人嫌的交际习惯你有吗？

2. Focusing on your inner monologue instead of the dialogue in front of you.

只顾表达自己，无视交谈互动。

“Holy crap! That’s a great idea. Wow. What can I say that will sound smart and clever? I really hope they think I’m intelligent. I could touch on symbolism or make a reference to post-modernism. Wait – what did they just ask me?” Stay focused on the other person’s words and points. People rarely mind when you say, “Hmm. Let me think about that for a second.” Quite the opposite, since it shows that you’re taking the conversation seriously. If you compose your answers while someone else is speaking, you’re really only having half a conversation. Read Just Listen.

“哇，主意真不错！该说点什么漂亮话来着？我要让别人觉得我很聪明。比喻？引用后现代主义？啊，对了，刚才他们问了什么问题来着？”——这就是很多人的习惯。相反，我们应该注意倾听对方的言辞要点。如果你说：“嗯，我想想看”，人们不会介意，而只会觉得你确实在把你们的谈话当回事。要是你在别人讲话的时候强行插入自己的观点，那谈话其实根本就没有互动性。所以，请倾听！

3. Multi-tasking while you chat.

讲话时一心多用。

Even if you are a professional multi-tasker, if you’re talking to someone, talk to them, and that’s it. Don’t browse online, don’t watch TV, don’t update your to-do list, and please, don’t eat while you’re on the phone. Whether they say so or not, it really annoys the person you’re talking to. If you really don’t have the time to talk, be honest and find another time, or cut it short.