如果你感觉自己不得不说出来,可以这样表达:“每当有人对我大声叫喊的时候,我就很难集中精力。我感觉我们并不是在沟通。”指出问题令你的上司感到尴尬,从而迫使他降低音量的可能性不大,但即便如此,表达出自己的想法,可以让你不会再像以前那样手足无措。
3. Talk very softly.
3. 轻声说话。
An approach that Cohen has often seen work is to "talk in a very soft voice, slowly," he says. "Make him listen to you, even to the point where he asks you to speak a little louder." This can be effective for two reasons. First, it distracts the yeller from whatever is stressing him out and shifts his attention to the content of the discussion, where it belongs; and, second, the glaring contrast between your voice and his might cause him to talk to you more quietly.
科恩发现非常有效的一种方式是,“用非常轻柔缓慢的声音说话。让他听你说,甚至在关键内容上,他会要求你提高音量。”这种方法之所以有效,有两个原因。首先,可以分散对方对压力的关注,使他将注意力转移到真正需要关注的地方,也就是你们正在讨论的内容;其次,双方声音之间的强烈对比也会让他降低音量跟你说话。
4. Restate what he's yelling about.
4. 重新叙述对方大声叫喊的内容。
Sometimes yellers calm down when it's clear you've understood the point they're trying to make, Cohen says. So try repeating back to him what he just shouted, but in your own words: "If I understand you correctly, you're saying we need to…." "If you can get past your gut reaction to being yelled at and listen to the substance of what your boss is saying, he may be revealing important information," Cohen notes. If so, showing that you've heard it might help reduce the volume.
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