不争执不对立：正确处理同事间争执_BEC初级作文

不争执不对立：正确处理同事间争执

2. Stop Enabling

2. 不要让别人改变

Many times we find ourselves in the midst of a conflict when we dislike the way another person has behaved habitually. But relationships are dynamic — we behave differently when interacting with different people. To break a cycle of ineffective interactions, find a way to do things a little differently next time from your side of the relationship.

很多时候争执是发生在我们不喜欢别人行为习惯的时候。但是人际关系是动态的——我们与不同的人交流时有不同的表现。为打破无效互动的恶性循环，下次交流时自己想办法做些改变。

3. Shift Your Perspective

3. 转变你的视角

Step outside of your head and look at the situation from their perspective. Look at things from a diverse point of view, focusing on the point of view of people whom you respect. How would each of them think about the problem you are experiencing? Thinking creatively will improve your chances of making a good decision.

跳出自己的思维模式，从他人的角度看问题。从不同的角度看待事物，关注你所尊敬的人的观点。他们会如何思考你正在经历的问题？创造性思维将增加你做出好决定的机会。

4. Prepare for a Conversation

4. 为谈话做好准备

Write a script: plan to describe the situation and describe the impact it had on you. Prepare what your limits and allowances are in advance. Find a way to stay calm, and practice communicating your message in a non-threatening, and non-defensive manner. How you present yourself during the first sentence or two will determine what type of conversation it is going to be.