If the love is TRUE in the sense that you’re seeking, then the discussions of what you hope your duo will evolve into will not be an issue. Love is vulnerability and if two people cannot be open and supportive of each other’s concerns or expectations, then are you in the kind of love which you seek?
如果这真是你在寻找的真爱,那么讨论你们所希望的两人未来的发展,不会是什么问题。爱是脆弱的,如果两人不能开诚布公且支持对方的顾虑和期待,那么你是在自己寻找的爱情中么?
4. Don’t make promises
4.不要许诺
Although that sounds harsh and against what you may believe encompasses true love, the pressure of a promise can cause an ultimate break. Instead, try expressing yourself with INTENTION. Intention adds the truth to love; humans are weakest when we’ve made ourselves vulnerable. We feed our inner fear when we add the pressure of “I promise to love you forever.”
尽管这听起来残酷,也和你或许期望会随真爱而来的东西背道而驰,但诺言的压力却能导致最后分手。与其如此,不如试着用意向去表达你自己。意向给爱加了真实感;当我们让自己容易被攻击时,人就成了最脆弱的。当我们给了自己“我保证会永远爱你”的压力时,就是在滋养内心的恐惧。
Intellectually, we see that love can’t be perfect because we are imperfect people. Thus, the rantings of heartbroken lovers are as old as mankind. Instead of the fear that “promises are meant to be broken,” embrace the concept that you will “pay attention to the intention.”
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