分手后老想着复合怎么办？先想清楚这9个问题_时事

分手后老想着复合怎么办？先想清楚这9个问题

很多人分手了会后悔当初的决定，纠结要不要复合。有人说，吃回头草绝对是一个糟糕的想法。但也存在这种可能性：分手只是一时冲动，重修旧好反而是件正确的事。那么我们究竟该不该和前任复合呢？关键在于，你必须想清楚为什么和对方复合，以及这些理由是否有足够的说服力。在下定决心之前，你应该仔细思考这些问题。

1. Are You Just Lonely?

你是否只是太孤独了？

This is the most important question. If you're feeling lonely or bored or listless, that is not the right reason to get back together. Take up knitting or something, it doesn't matter. Just don't get back together if this is your reason.

这是最关键的一点。如果你只是感到“空虚寂寞冷”，那么这不是复合的恰当原因。做点编织或者无论什么其他事情，消磨下时间。如果这真的是你的理由，那最好还是算了。

2. Why Did You Break Up And Is It Still A Problem?

你还没明白为何分手？

You need to be really honest about all the reasons you broke up and whether they're things that have actually been fixed.

你必须坦诚地面对分手的原因，想明白那些导致分手的问题是否已经得到解决。

"According to the well-known couples researcher Dr. John Gottman, 69 percent of relationship conflict is about perpetual problems - and ALL couples have them," Pella Weisman, Dating Coach and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, tells Bustle. "It's inevitable that there are ongoing issues in any relationship, and this is OK, as long as they are things you can live with. If the issues are problematic, be honest with yourself about this. Even better, get an outside perspective from someone you trust." It may be that the issues are just too big to make it work.