你们是好朋友,还是你正在精神出轨?_公共英语阅读理解

你们是好朋友,还是你正在精神出轨?

It's an age-old debate: Can men and women really just be best friends-or are they bound to fall for one another eventually? The answer changes depending on who you ask. And complicating the question even more is the fact that a romantic relationship needn't be physical to be real. Hence the increasingly popular term "emotional affair."

这是一场由来已久的辩论：男女之间真的存在纯友谊吗--亦或是他们最终会爱上彼此呢？问的对象不同，得到的答案也不尽相同。这个问题更复杂的一点是：一段浪漫的恋情不一定是肉体上的。因此，"精神出轨"这个术语越来越为流行。

So what is an emotional affair exactly? According to Kenneth Rosenberg, PhD, author of the new book Infidelity: Why Men and Women Cheat ($26, amazon.com), an emotional affair occurs between two people who share a mutual attraction and a deep, loving relationship that does not involve sex.

所以什么才是精神出轨？Infidelity: Why Men and Women Cheat（亚马逊网有售，26美元）一书的作者肯尼思·罗森博格博士表示，当两个人相互吸引、不发生性关系，但却深深地爱着彼此时，这就是精神出轨。

你们是好朋友,还是你正在精神出轨?1

You're being secretive

你在偷偷摸摸

The telltale sign of an emotional affair? "There's no way in hell you'd tell your primary partner about the relationship," says Rosenberg. That doesn't necessarily mean your S.O. doesn't know you're close with this other person; they just might not realize the extent of the friendship. "We all keep secrets from our partners and we might even have relationships that we might not tell them much about, but if it's a relationship where you know there's some sexual tension and you keep it from your partner, that's a sign you're in troubled waters," says Rosenberg. That brings us to our next point.