婚前必问的12个问题技术性排除潜在婚姻问题_BEC初级作文

婚前必问的12个问题技术性排除潜在婚姻问题

我们要孩子吗？如果要的话，你会换尿布吗？

With the question of children, it is important to not just say what you think your partner wants to hear, according to Debbie Martinez, a divorce and relationship coach. Before marrying, couples should honestly discuss if they want children. How many do they want? At what point do they want to have them? And how do they imagine their roles as parents? Talking about birth-control methods before planning a pregnancy is also important, said Marty Klein, a sex and marriage therapist.

离婚和与情感顾问黛比·马丁内斯称，在孩子的问题上，不要只说另一半爱听的话，这点很重要。婚前，伴侣应在是否想要孩子的问题上开诚布公地谈一谈。你俩想要几个孩子？何时想生？想象自己会如何扮演父母的角色？性爱与婚姻治疗师马蒂·克莱因表示，计划怀孕前探讨避孕方法也十分重要。

3. Will our experiences with our exes help or hinder us?

与前任的经验对彼此有益，还是会成为障碍？

Bradford Wilcox, the director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, indicated that having had many serious relationships can pose a risk for divorce and lower marital quality. This can be because of a person having more experience with serious breakups and potentially comparing a current partner unfavorably with past ones. Raising these issues early on can help, Dr Wilcox said. Dr Klein said people are "hesitant to explicitly talk about their past" and can feel retroactively jealous or judgmental. "The only real way to have those conversations in an intimate and productive way and loving way is to agree to accept that the other person had a life before the couple," he said.