成年意味着界定自己的身份。高中和大学时代,你的身份都是被界定的,像一串形容与编号:你的年级、专业、就业规划、课外活动等等。但毕业后你的身份却是空白的,需要自己加以界定。或许你终其一生都潦倒茫然,根本不知道自己是谁。但正如罗宾斯所言:“你总得在人生某个时刻坦诚面对自己,那不如现在就开始吧。”
Loosen your expectations, and find comfort in the fact that you’re not alone.
降低要求,寻找同类。
Even your friends who slipped right from college into seemed wedded bliss and cushy jobs are feeling the same pangs of uneasiness that you might be feeling. Surround yourself with people who make you feel safe and to whom you feel you can open up in a truly cathartic way. Personally, finding people I can share my struggles with has helped me immensely in my twenties; there’s absolutely nothing more valuable than a friend to whom you can say, “Hey, my life is shitty right now,” and hear back, “Me too. Let’s talk about it.”
就算朋友一毕业就步入婚姻殿堂、得到轻松工作,也不见得比你快乐。多跟给你安全感、让你恰当释怀的人交往。其实,我二十几岁时就是这么做的,再没什么能比跟朋友侃侃生活困难更畅快的了。
It’s also the right time to finally let go of your expectations of what adulthood should be. It doesn’t matter if your parents married at 22 or if your friend is running a successful start-up; putting too much stress on preconceived ideas of what adulthood will be is a surefire way to tank all of your optimism and hopes. Life is too fucking short to daydream it away wishing you had someone else’s.
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