苏珊.纽曼博士,《第二次同一屋檐下:长大后学会和谐相处》一书的作者与怀特观点不谋而合。“一大批青壮年向父母家迁徙,其中最主要的障碍就是怎样进入妈妈-爸爸-孩子的角色,”纽曼认为:“大多数年轻人回到家都不承担家务的责任,也不帮助父母减轻生活的负担。最终就形成了毫无必要的紧张氛围。”幸好这种氛围还可以避免。
Talk It Out
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The first step is communication. “Communication and conflict resolution are key to having a successful home life when adult children move back home,” says White.
交流是消除紧张氛围的第一步。“当年轻人搬回家时,交流和解决冲突是营造和谐家庭的关键,”怀特说。
Start with an open dialogue about house rules and personal boundaries to avert future conflicts before they become overwhelming and congregate. “Boundaries separating you from parents occurred automatically when you were independent, formed either by the physical distance or the amount of contact you orchestrated,” explains Newman. “When you live together again, boundaries can blur quickly. You will want to install ground rules that reshuffle the boundaries to ensure your parents’ and your freedom, comfort, and happiness.”
在冲突压倒性袭来之前,就开门见山地谈论一下家规和个人生活界限吧。“当你独立自主后,与父母之间的隔阂就会不知不觉地形成,这些隔阂表现在你与父母的肢体接触和你精心策划的联系次数,”纽曼解释道。“当你们再次同居一室时,隔阂瞬间显现出来。届时你就会想要重新制定一系列的规则以确保父母和你都能自由,舒适,愉悦地共处。”
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