如果你去和他们谈的时候气势汹汹、像是要去把人家头揪下来的架势,结果会很糟糕。烦心事第一次发生的时候,最简单的问他们能否采取其他的方式。例如,“喂,你下次进厨房的时候可不可以把你的盘子放在洗碗机里?那样的话我一会做饭的时候就方便多啦!”
DON’T TAKE FOREVER TO DISCUSS YOUR CONCERNS
第二招:别让担忧无止境
Aka, don’t wait an entire semester to approach them with whatever is bothering you! It will be counterproductive to start up a new semester saying “So, last semester it drove me nuts when you never took out the trash…let’s work on that this semester.” They will undoubtedly ask you why you didn’t say something earlier.
即,不要等上整整一学期才告诉他们你有什么不满!新学期伊始,“那个,上学期你从来不到垃圾,我都要疯了,这学期改改吧。”这样只会事与愿违。他们会毫不犹豫的问你怎么不早点说。
NOW, HAVE A SIT DOWN
第三招:坐下谈谈
A calm one, at that. Just be like “Hey, can I talk to you about something really quick! It’s not a big deal, I just wanted to ask a favor of you!” Lay out exactly what you’re having a problem with and be clear in why it troubles you.
一次冷静的谈话,就这样。好比“喂,我能和你谈谈吗,很快的!也不是什么大事,我就是想问你帮个忙!”告诉他们你的不满并明确的告诉他们为什么那样会使你心烦。
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