拒绝当狼爸虎妈如何避免冲孩子发脾气_BEC初级作文

拒绝当狼爸虎妈如何避免冲孩子发脾气

南卡罗来纳州米尔堡(Fort Mill)的利・弗朗桑(Leigh Fransen)的女儿阿洛纳(Alona)和伊莱沙(Elisha)一个10岁，一个8岁。有一次，她俩一周有两个晚上忘记给家里的狗巴尔托(Balto)喂食，弗朗桑很想发脾气。弗朗桑说：“这是个非常重要的责任，她们总问我要更多的宠物。我想冲她们吼：‘你们没有喂狗，今天晚上不给你们吃饭了，这样你们才知道狗是什么感觉’──但这么做只会让她们掉眼泪，让她们感到痛苦，而我很可能会心软让步。”

Instead, she started her response with 'I,' saying, 'I don't like seeing the dog not fed. Look at him: He is miserable. I expect him to be fed before you eat your own dinner,' Ms. Fransen says. Alona and Elisha needed to be reminded of the deadline twice, but soon learned to remember on their own. Ms. Fransen praised them for taking responsibility and encouraged them to see that 'Balto seems much happier now that he's getting dinner on time.'

于是她以“我”为开头来回应，她说：“我不喜欢看到狗没喂。看看他：他很可怜。我希望你们自己吃饭之前能把他喂饱。” 阿洛纳和伊莱沙后来还需要妈妈提醒两次才记得最后期限，但她们很快就能自己记得喂狗了。弗朗桑表扬她们能认真负责，并鼓励她们注意“巴尔托看起来开心多了，因为现在他能及时吃上饭了”。

Many parents blow up because they have unrealistic expectations-such as assuming a two-year-old shouldn't push parental limits, says Ms. Savage, chief executive of Hearts at Home, a Normal, Ill., nonprofit that runs conferences on parenting issues, including discipline. 'We say to our children, 'Act your age,' and in reality, they are,' she says. Not expecting children to be perfect, or nearly so, can calm parents' frustrations, Ms. Savage says. So can seeing a child's failure as an opportunity for him to learn.