Yelling becomes damaging when it is a personal attack, belittling or blaming a child with statements such as 'Why can't you ever remember?' or, 'You always get this wrong!' Ms. Faber says.
但费伯说,当你把吼叫作为人身攻击,用“你不能长点记性吗?”或者“你总是做错!”这种话来责备或挖苦孩子时,就会给孩子带来伤害。
Many parents lose control because they take children's misbehavior or rebellion personally, research shows: They feel attacked or think the child's actions reflect poorly on them. Parents who see a child's negative emotions as unexpected, overwhelming and upsetting tend to feel more threatened and frustrated with each new outburst, says a study published earlier this month in the Journal of Family Psychology. This pattern, called 'emotional flooding,' triggers a downward spiral in the relationship, disrupting the parent's problem-solving ability and fueling emotional reactions, such as yelling.
许多父母情绪失控是因为他们对孩子的错误或叛逆行为太较真。研究显示,他们会感觉自己受到攻击,或者认为孩子的行为让他们颜面尽失。《家庭心理学期刊》(Journal of Family Psychology)早些时候刊登的一项研究称,认为孩子的负面情绪出人意料、让人无所适从和令人沮丧的父母,往往会在孩子每次出现新的情绪爆发时产生更强烈的受威胁和挫败感。这种模式被称为“情绪崩溃”,会导致亲子关系陷入下行螺旋,扰乱父母解决问题的能力并催生吼叫等情绪反应。
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