拒绝当狼爸虎妈如何避免冲孩子发脾气_BEC初级作文

拒绝当狼爸虎妈如何避免冲孩子发脾气

Hearts at Home的首席执行长萨维奇说，许多父母发脾气是因为他们抱有不切实际的期望──比如认为两岁的孩子不应该违反父母的规定。她说：“我们对自己的孩子说：‘别像小孩那样。’但事实上他们就是小孩子。”萨维奇说，不要期望孩子十全十美或者接近完美，这样就能平复挫败感。所以我们可以把孩子的失败视为他学习的机会。Hearts at Home是伊利诺伊州诺默尔(Normal)一家就家庭教育问题（包括管教在内）组织会议的非营利组织。

Parents can turn a meltdown into a teaching moment by involving kids in finding solutions, Ms. Faber says. She suggests waiting for a calm moment and stating the rule the child violated. Then give the child a choice about how to prevent the misbehavior from happening again. Inviting a child to suggest solutions teaches problem-solving skills.

费伯说，父母可以和孩子一起寻找解决方案，把失败变为教育孩子的机会。她建议等到情绪平静的时候陈述孩子违反的规矩，然后让孩子去选择如何防止再次犯错。邀请孩子提出解决方案能够教会他们掌握解决问题的技能。

Sara Weingot of Baltimore used the technique after her 6-year-old son misbehaved during an outing in her minivan, kicking and pushing two other kids' booster seats. She later told him she never wanted it to happen again, then listened sympathetically as he explained that he had been squeezed too tightly between two other kids' car seats.