Now that you're "friends" with your child, you might want to mind your posts.
既然现在你已成为孩子的“好友”,那么你可能在发状态时要注意以下几点。
1) CONSTANTLY MOM-BRAGGING ABOUT THEM.
1)作为母亲,不断的炫耀他们。
It's nice to offer the occasional kudos, like when your teen passes his or her driver's test, but it's important to be aware of how they feel about being the main focus of your posts all the time, says Susan Kuczmarski, Ph.D., family expert and author of The Sacred Flight of the Teenager: A Parent's Guide to Stepping Back and Letting Go. "Self-consciousness, sometimes called an 'imaginary audience,' can be overwhelming in teens," she says. In other words, they assume that everyone around them is watching and passing judgment. So even sharing a candid photo of your teen studying, while innocent to you, could feel like a violation of their privacy. Before you post, pause and ask yourself: Why do I want to share this particular update about my child? Is it really about his or her accomplishment, or is it about me showing off? The next step is to ask for their permission, which creates respect between you, says Kuczmarski.
偶尔吹嘘他们是件好事儿,比如当他们通过驾照考试时,但是记住以下一点也很重要:对于自己总是成为你状态的重心,他们的感受是什么,苏珊•库兹马斯基(Susan Kuczmarski)博士说道,她是家庭专家也是《青少年神圣飞行:家长后退一步放任孩子自由指导》一书的作者。“自我意识,有时也叫做‘假想的观众’可能会让青少年十分困扰,”她说道。换句话说,他们会想象身边的人都在关注他们,对他们指指点点。所以即使你只是分享了一张孩子认真学习的照片,虽然你是无心的,但也是一种侵犯隐私的行为。在发状态之前,可以先停下来问自己:为什么我想要分享孩子的这个状态呢?这真的只是关于他/她的成就还是只是我这个当妈妈的想要炫耀一下呢?下一步就是征得他们的同意,因为这样会让你们彼此都相互尊重,库兹马斯基说道。
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