1. Remember that people aren't that interested in you
1. 记住人们对你并没有那么感兴趣
Several Quora users mentioned that people generally don't care about you as much as you think they do.
好几个Quora用户都提到人们通常不像你想的那样关注你。
Sibell Loitz, for example, prompts readers to consider how much time they spend thinking about others and their behavior: "not that much time."
比如,Sibell Loitz促使读者仔细思考,他们花多少时间去想别人和自己的行为。“没多少时间。”
Psychologists call the tendency to overestimate how much other people pay attention to you the "spotlight effect." In a 2000 study, highlighted on Tech Insider, people were asked to attend a party wearing a t-shirt with a picture of on it (it was supposed to be embarrassing).
高估别人对你的关注程度,心理学家把这称为“焦点效应”。在2000年《技术内幕》发表的研究中,人们被要求穿着印有巴瑞·曼尼洛照片的T恤参加一个派对(这应该很尴尬)。
Sure enough, those people significantly overestimated how much the other people at the party noticed their t-shirt.
果然,那些人大大地高估了派对上其他人对他们T恤的关注。
2. Tell yourself a different story
2. 告诉自己一个不一样 故事
No one can make you think or feel a certain way — it's all about the way you interpret their behavior. So by changing that interpretation, you might be able to make yourself think and feel more positively.
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